Why we should care what other people think about us.
It has been a common theme of individuals I have come across that people’s opinion of them does not matter. As a result of modernization, it is easy to see why people would gravitate to such a belief. It’s 2018 and many believe that people should be allowed to do what they want, whenever and however they want, without judgement. They are within their right to think that way but you have to ask yourselves these simple questions. Why do most loan officers ask you for references? Why do we lie on our resumes? why do we dress up for dates and interviews? why do we put up a front on dates? pretending to be full when you want to dive into that last slice of cheesecake?
Here are my three reasons why we should care what other people think about us.
- To gain trust. Relationships are the foundation of every society. Whether between a mother & her son, a wife & her husband, bonds between siblings, a pastor & his congregation or government and the people; It is critical that trust is embedded in the mix. It is difficult for a failing government to gain trust from the people if it has a past tarnished by corruption nor is it easy for a spouse to gain the trust of a partner after cheating numerous times before. No one is perfect but once people view you as a cheater, a liar, a thief or any negative connotation, trust will become an issue. Your intentions will always be questioned. Ask yourself, if I make this choice what will people think of me and will anyone trust me ever again? would you trust you?
- To build a long lasting legacy. Have you ever been in a spot of bother?Only to have someone come to rescue but right before they save you they drop this line, ‘your father was a good person,” it’s the least I can do.’ or something of the sort. My point is, a good rapport extends beyond just you its something that affects a generation of people and will live on. I don’t know about you but I would sleep soundly knowing that if anyone I love face a difficulty in life, there will be someone out there to use the good rapport as a benchmark to help him out. Maybe I am the only one who believe things like that. But how will people remember you? as a honest person? or a sleazy scumbag? will they focus on your good needs or that you only cared about yourself?
- For love. “I want to be loved” is one truism to which we can all relate. It is hard to love anyone or anything that goes against what you believe or stand for. People tend to have a greater love for someone they think are like them. How many times have you told a date you liked something they liked just so they would think you had similar interest? because deep down we know that what our date thinks of us will determine if we get a second date. Most parents wont admit they have a favorite but they do, the one that reminds them of themselves the most. I have met a lot of persons who have a very rotten attitude who are proud to let you know that they will never change and they don’t care what you think. a mindset like that makes for a toxic relationship and offers you a partner that is very hard to love and a coworker that very hard to work with. Would you find it easy to love someone who does not care what you think?
At the end of the day what people think about you matters greatly and can have a lasting impact on your life. ” A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, loving favor than silver and gold”. I am not encouraging people to try and be someone they are not but we should all seek to ensure that we are perceived in a good light. If you already have a tarnished reputation get started on making a better name for yourself. Let when people think of you they think of someone with great integrity.