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Whats wrong with people

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Are humans inherently selfish? These days I find myself questioning the motives of friends, family and society itself. People just generally seem to be all for them self and the harsh truth is no one seem to genuinely care about the well-being of the other party. The world seems to lack empathy as a man will have no remorse for scamming hardworking citizens of their life savings. People seem to feel no sense of guilt for causing pain.

Sigmund Freud was the founder of psychoanalysis, a theory which explains human behaviour. He believed that the human self is divided into three parts. His conception of the three-part self is made up of the Id, Ego and the Super-ego.

He believes that the Id is a bunch of instincts aimed at gaining pleasure and avoiding pain and this part of our personality will always be the most dominant. It is the version of ourselves that is endlessly demanding and selfish. It’s unreasonable and hard to please. It’s like a spoilt brat in some sense. He states that the logical law of thought does not apply to the Id. It has no judgement of moral value it just seeks pleasure for itself.

The second part of ourselves he argues is the ego. The ego comes across as the reasonable modest of the three. It is the negotiator. When the Id acts up making unreasonable request it tries to keep it in check. The ego stands for reason and good sense. It’s like a reality check. However, being weaker, it tries to satisfy the pleasure of the Id, the Super-ego and the external world. When people go the see a therapist this is the part of themselves that they seek to strengthen.

The super ego is like the Id, it’s irrational and represent the main adversary of the Id. It is the stern parent of our self that deals in guilt and set impossible standards of moral perfection. This is shaped by our parents or religion and this feeling of guilt is called the ego ideal or standards of impossible perfection. It’s like when parents expect their kids to be the president one day and go down in history as one of the most successful human beings to ever walk the face of the earth. Or to be at the top of their classes all the time and get perfect grades all the time. What happens is that children begin to internalize these impossible expectations. This is the ego ideal. Therefore the super-ego has these two parts, the conscience representing guilt and the ego ideal.

When the super-ego tries to fulfill these impossible tasks it opposes the self-serving pleasure principle of Id and the reality principle of the ego while always trying to impose its own morality as it represents the morality principle.

Freud went on to argue that there is no remedy for the subconscious warfare between the three parts of our personality and that we are doomed to suffering. The greatest suffering he alluded to was that of interpersonal suffering. The one we cause one another and our inability to resolve it. The pain we inflict on the people we have intimate relationships with, even family members in an argument or dispute. Sometimes the people will find the harshest things to do or say just to upset you or hurt you intentionally. Ever wonder why? Freud believed that in our unconscious we want to hurt others and because of the Id in our personality we get immense pleasure from it  and will not admit it to ourselves or else we will be punished by our super-ego through guilt. As a result most people rarely even apologise for causing hurt and even if they do they often repeat the offense. He believes that men are wolves to one another. Humans are cruel and brutal and warfare proves the truth to that.

Are humans inherently selfish? if we are to go by our dominant instinct then the answer seem obvious. The harsh reality is people out there derive pleasure from you pain. they feel good when they make you feel bad. and it doesn’t get more selfish than that.

 

Carrying Your Cross

 

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The history of Jesus and the events leading up to his crucifixion is a very popular story especially in the Easter Season.  A man who possesses so much power yet was subject to such ridicule up to the time of his death seemed absurd. We in today’s society can relate his experience to ours in terms of the different hardship or oppression that we encounter daily or occasionally.  Jesus, the “King of the Jews”, was rejected and persecuted by the very people he came to save. People he encountered on a daily basis and performed good deeds for, his followers! Disciples who he called friends disowned him and betrayed him.  Similarly, we can relate to situations where we are misjudged, discriminated, betrayed and ridiculed by our friends, loved ones, or society maybe because of our religious belief, gender, goals, or aspirations.

By carrying his own cross Jesus was subjected to the lowest forms of humiliation and a very painful death. However, he showed enough resolve to see it through.  Christianity will teach us to remain faithful to God and pray without ceasing as a means to overcome the adversity.  While through different moral aspects we learn to chase our dreams or what we believe in despite the doubts others may have in us.  People may not see eye to eye in every situation but we ought to be self driven and be determined to stand for what we believe in.  So if you are a member of a poor family that’s struggling to make ends meet and your dream is to break the cycle of poverty by attending a tertiary institution and obtaining that college degree, don’t let your current situation get you discouraged.  Remember Jesus had to carry his own cross to his death. However, he rose again after three days, in triumph.

Even though back then the cross just simply meant a torturous death let’s try to view it as that burden we need to get rid of the load on our backs that we need to let go. Many suffer from depression, addiction, stress and physical ailments but whatever your cross Jesus wants us to follow his lead, ” take up your cross and follow me”.  People will scorn you, try to humiliate you, friends will betray you, family will reject you but be stead fast. Just as Jesus was victorious over death and hell so will you.  React as how Jesus did, with humility and prayer, let your perseverance push on because as Jesus has risen on the third day, with determination and the grace of God  You will rise above your circumstances and be triumphant.

Kenzic the STAR

Today’s feature comes from Kadeem Wilson.  Popularly known by the moniker Kenzic. Let’s get to know a bit more about Kadeem.

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Let’s check out one of Kadeem’s latest project:

Artist On The Rise

image1Today’s feature comes from Press Fyah. He may be more popularly known as the crowned  KING back in 2010, on the local entertainment show Magnum Kings and Queens  of Dancehall. Let’s get to know a bit more about this artist on the rise.  

Press Fyah was born Conroy Rennis in the parish of Portland, Jamaica. He is a Reggae/dancehall artiste, song writer and producer.

From very early on Press Fyah had two passions that stood out, the love for music and the love for football. His desire for football subsided in 2003 after he got a job as a fire fighter and realized that there was just not enough time in his schedule for soccer; his only solace was writing music during his lunch hour.

He slowly embraced the idea of becoming a recording artiste and so he started sharing his music in his community. He was later introduced to a group of young artistes who wanted to assist him in improving his craft. Instead, he ended up joining their group; they were known as Space House. Unfortunately, the group did not achieve much success so Press Fyah continued to work as a solo performer even though he maintained a solid relationship with them.

Press Fyah did not have an official artiste name, so most people would refer to him by his pet name Troy. While with the group he began calling himself Xpress but soon learnt that another artiste was already using that name. When he entered the Magnum Kings and Queens competition in 2009 he used the name Fire Press, a name his friends bestowed upon him because he was a fire fighter. As a matter of fact, General Degree (one of the judges on Magnum Kings and Queens) heard his music and suggested that he changed it around and so he did. In that year Press Fyah was selected only for the live show portion of the contest, and did not go any further.

Feeling more confident, Press Fyah re-entered the Magnum Kings and Queens Competition in2010. He was not sure if he would win but thought that the publicity would at least gain him musical exposure, but to everyone’s surprise, including his own, Press Fyah won the competition and was crowned the 2010 Magnum King of Dancehall! He was simply elated with the victory and to this day he refers to that as one of his greatest achievements.

Although, the winning of the Magnum crown in 2010 did not translate into a recording or management contract. Press Fyah remained an unsigned artist and so he committed himself to pushing his music independently, something he continues to do even today.

His catalogue includes “Far Away” on the Starkutt Record Label (Demarco), “Close to Me,” a Sajay Production, the Rainfall Riddim, Compilation by Good Good Production on the Teambritjam Riddim, and that is just to name a few. His most recent release is a single entitled “Road Users” which is on the Charlie Pro Record Label. All his songs are available online for streaming and download.

Press Fyah will continue to hone his talent and looks forward to one day dominating the music industry.


Check out this video of Press Fyah’s latest work!

 

 


 

Why we should care what other people think about us.

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It has been a common theme of individuals I have come across that people’s opinion of them does not  matter. As a result of modernization, it is easy to see why people would gravitate to such a belief. It’s 2018 and many believe that people should be allowed to do what they want, whenever and however they want, without judgement. They are within their right to think that way but you have to ask yourselves these simple questions. Why do most loan officers ask you for references? Why do we lie on our resumes? why do we dress up for dates and interviews? why do we put up a front on dates? pretending to be full when you want to dive into that last slice of cheesecake?

Here are my three reasons why we should care what other people think about us.

  1. To gain trust. Relationships are the foundation of every society. Whether  between a mother & her son, a wife & her husband, bonds between siblings, a pastor & his congregation or government and the people; It is critical that trust is embedded in the mix. It is difficult for a failing government to gain trust from the people if it has a past tarnished by corruption nor is it easy for a spouse to gain the trust of a partner  after cheating numerous times before. No one is perfect but once people view you as a cheater, a liar, a thief or any negative connotation, trust will become an issue. Your intentions will always be questioned. Ask yourself, if I make this choice what will people think of me and will anyone trust me ever again? would you trust you?
  2. To build a long lasting legacy. Have you ever been in a spot of bother?Only to have someone come to rescue but right before they save you they drop this line, ‘your father was a good person,” it’s the least I can do.’ or something of the sort. My point is, a good rapport extends beyond just you its something that affects a generation of people and will live on. I don’t know about you but I would sleep soundly knowing that if anyone I love face a difficulty in life, there will be someone out there to use the good rapport as a benchmark to help him out. Maybe I am the only one who believe things like that. But how will people remember you? as a honest person? or a sleazy scumbag? will they focus on your good needs or that you only cared about yourself?
  3. For love. “I want to be loved” is one truism to which we can all relate. It is hard to love anyone or anything that goes against what you believe or stand for. People tend to have a greater love for someone they think are like them. How many times have you told a date you liked something they liked just so they would think you had similar interest? because deep down we know that what our date thinks of us will determine if we get a second date. Most parents wont admit they have a favorite but they do, the one that reminds them of themselves the most. I have met a lot of persons who have a very rotten attitude who are proud to let you know that they will never change and they don’t care what you think. a mindset like that makes for a toxic relationship and offers you a partner that is very hard to love and a coworker that very hard to work with. Would you find it easy to love someone who does not care what you think?

 

At the end of the day what people think about you matters greatly and can have a lasting impact on your life. ” A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, loving favor than silver and gold”. I am not encouraging people to try and be someone they are not but we should all seek to ensure that we are perceived in a good light. If you already have a tarnished reputation get started on making a better name for yourself. Let when people think of you they think of someone with great integrity.
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Upcoming Artist

B70C465B-D7ED-4EF4-8F50-6F4CFD8EAF2COur first ever feature comes from Kalex .

KaleX is a triple threat musician, being a Producer, Artiste and Songwriter. His musical sound is a rich fusion of a large palette of influences, ranging from reggae to afrobeat and everything in between.

The production aspect of his career began in 2012 when he began making beats for his own songs. Since then, he has produced for artistes such as Artikal, Casanova, D’Angel, Sizzla (on his popular Celsius Riddim project) and most recently has co produced and released a riddim featuring Popcaan, Chargii, Khxos, Belizean act Stig Da Artist and more.

Since the release of his ‘0 to 100 freestyle’ in 2014, his musical growth has been evident and this can be seen in his two most popular singles, Wol Di Faith and Palm Trees & Liquor which has made charts in Belize.

Check out this video of Kalex’s latest work!

 

My Melanin

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You say you hate my skin!

What about it though? The lack of Carotene or the abundance of Melanin?!
Same difference? Yeah I know!
Talk about Confucius Confucius right?
But anyways, you say you hate my skin!
What? The fact that I wear it with pride? Or is if the fact that it’s a reminder of a place of where my ancestors once reside.
You say you hate my skin!
May I assume it’s the fact that “the caroteners” hate the fact that we embrace that we will never be accepted for our skin. I get it though! How does one isolate misconception or I think better yet called, illusion; from the truth. When we were grown up being lectured that you are “white” and you are “black”. Rather than we are all human beings. As if we were given the option to choose our “skin color”. I mean we didn’t volunteer like hey! Me over here! Can you make me pink! No, forget it! Let’s keep it simple, Black will do! No, not that shade! A little darker please.
Yes believe me, I get it! You hate my skin!
And I think it’s in being such beautiful “black” understanding beings that we allowed our shade/skin/ hue/color/Melanin; whatever you choose to call it, to be “ostracized, attacked and found guilty!” But nonetheless we found redemption in knowing that we are all the same. Don’t think so? Take an x-ray and tell me what color you see! Pink? Green? Oh no! I know the answer! White right? No you say?Oh sorry, I meant Black? Ohh, none? I thought so.
But I mean I don’t blame you for saying you hate my skin.
Why would you not? Growing up being taught that we are monsters. Not literal monsters but the way we have been treated, is the equivalent of saying we are. Have you ever seen a science fiction movie or anything along that line?
The pure is clothed in white and Evil clothed in black. And now that we are on the topic of good and evil. You think so highly of the church doctrine but you seem to have leaped pass an area that reads “Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the LORD weighs the heart.” So who are you to hate or judge my skin!
Where did we go wrong?
We were beaten, enslaved, spoken down to and even lynched for crimes we didn’t even commit.
If anyone should be hating it should be “us”.
And while I already know the question, I must still ask; You still hate my skin?
I mean not that it matters. It’s that hatred, that repugnance, that despise that kept us fighting the fight. Kept us level headed and helped us to find that vigor
to know that we do not need to be accepted, we don’t need to be validated.
I mean as “human beings”, it’s just in our natural instinct to evaluate and analyze everything thing, place, and in most cases people we come in contact with but lest we forget; My fellow “pigmented” brother Martin Luther King had a “dream” and I guess to put it simple, I just want you to understand that “the dream” will never be just a fantasy.
You hate my skin!
Well, my dear. This skin holds a story and past that you could not have endured. And while I will always say the past is gone and is an investment of who and what “we” are. I must still speak of this skin that clothes me and tell stories of my origin. It’s the epitome of struggles and of hardships. It tells the stories of how the oppressors and the aggressors used social stratification to make you discriminate and even hate on a mere human being, without even knowing why.
But just a question, who taught you to hate so much?
Don’t even answer that! Rather than answer, let me say this, “judge me not by the color of my skin”. Then tell your fellow “people” this message; as per my fellow “Melaninated” brother Marcus Garvey
“Liberate the minds of men, and ultimately you will liberate the bodies of men.”
I love my skin and I love yours too
❤️❤️❤️❤️

Written by: Sashane Dobson